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While your words may be positive, your closed off body language will be incongruent with what you’re saying and leave people feeling uneasy and confused.
Many men, for example, have been creepy by accident because while they may have had the best of intentions, their body language made them seem intimidating or even So the first key is to not give someone – especially women – the full frontal experience; that is, to standing toe to toe with them.
Facing a stranger square on can feel intimidating; it can come across as though you’re trying to box them in.
Instead, you want to angle yourself slightly away from them, which feels more accommodating and friendly.
I’ve mastered counting to ten ten times in a row and gathering my resolve and dealing with stress and listening to music to calm me down or trying to take an extra long shower so I can have maybe four minutes of quiet without hearing called and dealing with one boy who decided to sneak the last chip bag and throw the wrapper in his closet behind the box of legos. I’ll try to play a game with them but my mind will race through the to-do list that has it’s own index and days of rolled over I’ll do it tomorrow items. There was just me trying to understand why this was like this and then feeling guilt and like I wasn’t a good mom because we were in the midst of this battle over putting on clean underwear and pants and a shirt. Where did the laughing, the Hallmark moments, the sitting at the table with the glitter and making snowflakes part of being a mom go? And maybe maybe maybe just allowing yourself a moment to be happy and to let the cares of the world and never ending to-do’s fall off of your back just for a moment. Even if it feels ordinary and exasperating and tiring.
The beast of laundry may still haunt me but even that has become putty in my mom hands as I know that those pants that were needed in the morning will get done even if I have to stay up to am. While they’re drawing cards and laughing I’ll be creating a list of things I’ve forgotten to do and need to do and don’t really want to do but I can’t put off much longer. Perfecting the art of not going back to the Candy Cane Forest. But I’m just talking about some of those truths that moms deal with. Because I could sit at the table and make snowflakes with glitter with them and even though I’d be having fun part of me, truthfully, would be thinking now You know. Maybe we should all make a goal for this year to find one more thing to do to be happy. Not built on artificial pretenses or doing crazy extra things or being perfect, but really on loving ourselves and taking time for ourselves and learning to be in the moment just for a bit with our kids. It’s in stepping back and working hard to get that deep breath and to fill your head with words about the awesome that you do versus telling yourself all the things you didn’t do.
The tricky part is keeping the ball rolling; it’s easy to trail off – or worse, make someone feel uncomfortable about dominating the entire conversation.
It may be regional – people from Manhattan, the outer boroughs and New Jersey, for example – it may be an extroverted trait, or it may simply be that your brain runs faster than your mouth and you’re forever playing catch-up as your thoughts rocket along.
The sort of person who can just sit down with someone and have them feeling like they’ve known you for even though you’ve only just met? We’ve talked a lot about charm and charisma before, and what it takes to be a more fascinating, magnetic person.
The key that underlies it all, to building a rapport and finding that connection, is simple: you have to be able to make people feel good.
Deliberately slowing down your cadence makes you sound calmer and less anxious – and, more importantly, like you’re not about to sell them on your brilliant get rich quick scheme.
And like to believe that our inner lives and thoughts are fascinating.